A DYI to Feel better in 12 minutes

Maneuver Your Consciousness In 12 Minutes Or Less

by Christine Comaford*

Preparation, you’ll need:

  1. An Emotion Wheel (we’ve included two samples)
  2. A timer – you’ll be doing four segments of three minutes in a row.
  3. Ideally, do this exercise with a buddy who will sit silently with you and ensure that you use all three minutes for each step below:
  4. Think of something you are resisting. Pick something “meaty”, like:

  • A painful belief;

  • A belittling,

  • Anger at someone or something

  • An unpleasant person

  • A situation you don’t want in your life.

  • Circumstances out of your control

Step 1. Negative Evaluation State: Have your buddy set the timer for three minutes. During those three minutes, say out loud and don’t censor yourself or hold back. Really go all out:

  • All the things you don’t like about what you’re resisting.

  • What’s bad about it, what you can’t stand about it.

  • How painful it is.

  • How it makes you feel.

  • Why it’s wrong. 

As soon as the three minutes are up, look at the Emotion Wheel and identify the key emotions you experienced during this state of Negative Evaluation.

Then have your buddy break your state. He or she can invite you to shake your body out, ask you a non-sequitur question involving a number, such as “How many stripes does a zebra have?”, or even ask you to count backwards from 10 to 1.

Step 2. Curiosity State: Have your buddy set the timer for three minutes. Now get really curious about this situation.

  • How did it come to be?

  • What is interesting about it?

  • What is familiar about it?

  • What good things come from it?

As soon as the three minutes are up, look at the Emotion Wheel and identify your key emotions from this state of Curiosity. Then, have your buddy break your state by inviting you to shake your body out, asking you a non-sequitur question involving a number, such as “How many spots does a cheetah have?”, or asking you to count backwards from 10 to 1.

Step 3. Amazement State: Have your buddy set the timer for three minutes, and actively become amazed that this situation ever came to be.

  • This is fascinating because . . . !

  • What’s amazing about it?

  • How do you feel about it?

As soon as the three minutes are up, look at the Emotion Wheel and identify the key emotions you noticed in this state of Amazement. Then, have your buddy break your state. He or she might invite you to shake your body out, ask you a non-sequitur question involving a number, such as “How many grains of sand are on a perfect beach?”, or ask you to count backwards from 10 to 1.

Step 4. Full Appreciation State: Have your buddy set the timer for three minutes. Ahhhh…deep breath. Honor everything about this situation:

  • “Yes! This has been so very helpful in bringing me to the next level.

  • Wow.” So much gratitude and appreciation.

  • How do you feel about it as you’re honoring it?

As soon as the three minutes are up, look at the Emotion Wheel and identify key emotions you experienced while in this state of Full Appreciation. Then have your buddy break your state. He or she could invite you to shake your body out, ask you a non-sequitur question involving a number, such as “What’s your favorite number?”, or even ask you to count backwards from 10 to 1.

This process help release resistance, and also allows us to have choices and possibly increase our productivity. The quicker you can shift out of resistance and into consent, the faster you can focus on what really matters most.

Give this process a try and tell us if it worked for you.

Christine Comaford is a leadership and culture coach who helps businesses achieve growth. 

https://thriveglobal.com/stories/heres-how-to-feel-better-in-12-minutes/

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