Rx: Best Friends create Better Health

They Teach It at Stanford

A lecture at Stanford University by the head of psychiatry, was on the mind-body connection – the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman. Whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

He was serious.

“Besties”

“Women connect with each other differently and  provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult  life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps us to create more serotonin – a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being. Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes.  But their feelings? Rarely.”

Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health.  He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

“There’s a tendency to think that when we are “exercising” we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged—not true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!”

“So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very lucky. Let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it’s very good for our health.”

Friends and pets

Lifelong friends

We REALLY TREASURE our GIRLFRIENDS.  Now go and treasure yours.  (couldn’t resist the Pink Color!)

P. S. Interesting Research findings:

  • Longevity – Married men live longer than single men, yet women who marry have the same life expectancy as those who don’t. However, women with strong female social ties (girlfriends) live longer than those without them.
  • Stress – For decades, stress tests focused solely on male participants, believing that all humans would respond in the same manner. When these same stress tests were finally conducted on females it was discovered that women don’t have the same, classic ‘fight or flight’ response to stress that men do. According to the research presented in The Tending Instinct, women under stress have the need to ‘tend and befriend.’ We want to tend to our young and be with our friends. Time with our friends actually reduces our stress levels.
  • More Stress – A study conducted by the UCLA School of Medicine found that when we’re with our girlfriends, our bodies emit the “feel good” hormone oxytocin, helping us reduce everyday stress. By prioritizing our female friendships and spending time with these friends, we take advantage of a very simple, natural way to reduce our stress.
  • Even more stress – Prairie voles, a monogamous rodent, have a similar response to stress. When a male vole is put in a stressful situation, he runs to his female partner. Female voles, when stressed, immediately run to the females they were raised with.
  • Self-esteem – A recent study by Dove indicated that 70% of women feel prettier because of their relationships with female friends. It’s no surprise that our self-esteem is highly influenced by our girlfriends; this is important to understand for girls as well as women.
  • The Health Factor – Women without strong social ties risk health issues equivalent to being overweight or a smoker – it’s that serious.

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7 comments on “Rx: Best Friends create Better Health

  1. This has been my experience: when stressed and I call a woman friend I feel sooo much better afterward. it’s interesting how males and females differ so substantially, isn’t it? I’ve also read men respond to depression with anger whereas, for the most part, women tend to push it inward.

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  2. I’ve been staying up north with my younger son’s family for 3 weeks, helping out with their two young children. Out of touch with friends for those 3 weeks. (I didn’t even know what day of the week it was – ever!) Once returned, I had a laundry list of things I had to do, like find a new electrician immediately, but what I wanted most to do was call my closest friends and just talk. Did exactly that for 3 hours with one friend and several more hours with other friends. I need my gal friends. We talk about stuff I can’t discuss with my husband – different wave lengths that he can’t respond to.

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